Life goes on… This is what everything eventually boils down to, isn’t it? I had the most amazing and the most difficult 4 months in India this year. I had to leave on an emergency in March for a reason which all of us dread. My mum was diagnosed with leukemia in the very last stage. Needless to say, my husband, my son and I wanted to make her last days as happy and as comfortable as possible.
These couple of months were difficult to say the least. Which child would ever be OK with watching a parent in pain? I wondered if I would be less distraught when the time comes because the doctors had informed me way in advance that my mum doesn’t have more than a month or 2. No I wasn’t. No one ever is. I haven’t known greater pain than that of loosing my mum.
It was also the most amazing few months that I’ve known! Since we knew that she had very little time with us, we made the most of it! From cooking her favorite foods, to watching old movies to listening to songs from the seventies! We did everything together.Hubby went to the old time Bombay lanes to get some of my mum’s ‘nostalgia’ street foods.
My hubby has always been my pillar of support in good times and bad & he completely took the term ‘loving unconditionally’ to a whole new level! He did everything that a son would do & beyond!! He was the son which she never had. We made memories that we will cherish for the rest of our lives. My 3 year old knows his maternal grandma, she’s not just someone who visited him when he was little, she is now a memory that he lived with and loved. Having achieved this feat makes these few months priceless!
Meera, my mum, was the strongest and the most ballsy woman that I’ve ever come across in my entire lifetime. Being handicapped for 26 years did not dampen her spirit and her zest for life. She was unstoppable! She has helped more people in that state than I have in my healthy state. No bias, honest! She’s left a vacuum in my heart that can never be filled. If I can make a difference even in a few peoples lives, it’ll make my mum happy.
Like I said in the beginning of the post, ‘Life’ goes on. I’m back in the UAE after almost 5 months and it feels good. To be able to move on and have a place which is almost home, feels good. I’m looking forward to a whole lot more of blogging this year. Watch this space for some exciting posts!